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Chip's New Year's Revelation

January 2, 2017

Jo and I sometimes don’t see eye to eye on stuff. She looks at something one way and in her gut she thinks she’s right and I look at it an entirely different way. I wish that she could get with the program and just see things the way that I do. (Of course, I’m kidding – we all know Jo’s usually right.) If Joanna and I, who are best friends, don’t see lots of things the same way – how on earth do we expect a world of strangers to magically align? The reality is, we may not all get on the same page and I think that’s okay.

This past year has been tough. In my lifetime, I can’t recall humanity being more divided. Plenty of folks are sad and scared and angry and there are sound bites being fed to us that seem fueled by judgement, fear and even hatred. Jo and I refuse to be baited into using our influence in a way that will further harm an already hurting world, this is our home. A house divided cannot stand.

If there is any hope for all of us to move forward, to heal and to grow – we have got to learn to engage people who are different from us with dignity and with love. Joanna and I have personal convictions. One of them is this: we care about you for the simple fact that you are a person, our neighbor on planet earth. It’s not about what color your skin is, how much money you have in the bank, your political affiliation, sexual orientation, gender, nationality or faith. That’s all fascinating, but it cannot add or take away from the reality that we’re already pulling for you. We are not about to get in the nasty business of throwing stones at each other, don’t ask us to cause we won’t play that way.

In 2017: We have decided to change the conversation.  

You wanna talk about how to build bridges between people that disagree? We want to be a part of that conversation. Do you want to talk about healing and compassion and kindness and restoration? We’re in the restoration business, we can for sure make time for that.  

I think we are all here for a reason. I think we all have a call on our lives. Your role is not my role, and thank goodness, because there is so much unique and important work to be done. Jo and I feel called to be bridge builders. We want to help initiate conversations between people that don’t think alike. Listen to me, we do not all have to agree with each other. Disagreement is not the same thing as hate, don’t believe that lie.

Also, let’s cut each other a little slack. This living out loud thing is not for the faint of heart. Jo and I don’t want to hide, we want to live brave & bold lives and we wish that same thing for you as well. But words can cut deep and having someone misunderstand your intentions can hurt as much as just about anything. If I misjudge people and am wrong, I want to be wrong having assumed the best about them. The bottom line is, I would rather be loving than be right.

Our family wants to fight for a world that knows how to lovingly disagree. We believe it starts when we operate from a position of love in all things. If your position only extends love to the people who agree with you, we want to respectfully challenge that position. We propose operating with a love so real and true that you are willing to roll up your sleeves and work alongside the very people that are most unlike you. Fear dissolves in close proximity. Our stereotypes and vain imaginations fall away when we labor side by side. This is how a house gets unified.

Think about it for a minute:  This could be one of the greatest restoration stories of all time.  

Who’s ready to get to work?


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  • Lynnae Bessler
    1:44 pm, August 13, 2017
    You and Jo have the greatest outlook on life and people. Our world would be much better off if everyone could accept these kinds of opinions and beliefs. You and your family are so genuine and hold a very special place in my life and my beliefs. Stay with it and you will be be blessed even more.
  • Camille Long
    6:40 am, August 10, 2017
    I absolutely LOVE you, Chip. I love your family. I have always felt your authentic soul. and it makes me happy to know there are folks like you guys out there in the world.
    Feel like coming to New Jersey for a visit? I would be honored to have you! (you can always spruce up my kitchen too!!! :) )
  • Lauren
    3:37 pm, August 9, 2017
    Beautiful, brave and poetic. This is the true meaning of every day. To put aside being one minded, put aside difference and just love one another. That's the reason for each day. That's the breath of refreshing air when life is sorta heavy. That's the stuff our hearts are truely woven of. Framework of the heart and fill it up with love for one another :)
  • Geneva Ann Davis
    1:07 pm, August 5, 2017
    I love your show, I love seeing your kids and how much they have grown. Each one is so special. I love the way you two work together to get things done. My husband and I go to a lot of antique stores and we love looking at all the different things. We have a house full of vintage stuff, but we got it together and it makes it home. I also love that you talk some about church. It shows in the way you guys talk to each other, your children and others. I too believe in God. I just hope it shows on me like it does on you too. Keep up the show please I watch reruns all the time and see something I missed the first time. Thank you for sharing a small portion of you lives with us. If I get to you area I will look you up. We live in Kentucky.
  • Sue Entrekin
    7:22 pm, August 3, 2017
    Love your show...everthing about it! God bless you and your precious family.
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