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Chip's New Year's Revelation

January 2, 2017

Jo and I sometimes don’t see eye to eye on stuff. She looks at something one way and in her gut she thinks she’s right and I look at it an entirely different way. I wish that she could get with the program and just see things the way that I do. (Of course, I’m kidding – we all know Jo’s usually right.) If Joanna and I, who are best friends, don’t see lots of things the same way – how on earth do we expect a world of strangers to magically align? The reality is, we may not all get on the same page and I think that’s okay.

This past year has been tough. In my lifetime, I can’t recall humanity being more divided. Plenty of folks are sad and scared and angry and there are sound bites being fed to us that seem fueled by judgement, fear and even hatred. Jo and I refuse to be baited into using our influence in a way that will further harm an already hurting world, this is our home. A house divided cannot stand.

If there is any hope for all of us to move forward, to heal and to grow – we have got to learn to engage people who are different from us with dignity and with love. Joanna and I have personal convictions. One of them is this: we care about you for the simple fact that you are a person, our neighbor on planet earth. It’s not about what color your skin is, how much money you have in the bank, your political affiliation, sexual orientation, gender, nationality or faith. That’s all fascinating, but it cannot add or take away from the reality that we’re already pulling for you. We are not about to get in the nasty business of throwing stones at each other, don’t ask us to cause we won’t play that way.

In 2017: We have decided to change the conversation.  

You wanna talk about how to build bridges between people that disagree? We want to be a part of that conversation. Do you want to talk about healing and compassion and kindness and restoration? We’re in the restoration business, we can for sure make time for that.  

I think we are all here for a reason. I think we all have a call on our lives. Your role is not my role, and thank goodness, because there is so much unique and important work to be done. Jo and I feel called to be bridge builders. We want to help initiate conversations between people that don’t think alike. Listen to me, we do not all have to agree with each other. Disagreement is not the same thing as hate, don’t believe that lie.

Also, let’s cut each other a little slack. This living out loud thing is not for the faint of heart. Jo and I don’t want to hide, we want to live brave & bold lives and we wish that same thing for you as well. But words can cut deep and having someone misunderstand your intentions can hurt as much as just about anything. If I misjudge people and am wrong, I want to be wrong having assumed the best about them. The bottom line is, I would rather be loving than be right.

Our family wants to fight for a world that knows how to lovingly disagree. We believe it starts when we operate from a position of love in all things. If your position only extends love to the people who agree with you, we want to respectfully challenge that position. We propose operating with a love so real and true that you are willing to roll up your sleeves and work alongside the very people that are most unlike you. Fear dissolves in close proximity. Our stereotypes and vain imaginations fall away when we labor side by side. This is how a house gets unified.

Think about it for a minute:  This could be one of the greatest restoration stories of all time.  

Who’s ready to get to work?


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  • Linda Meineke
    1:15 pm, March 27, 2017
    This was so inspiring. I love the show and this attitude is why.

    We should all aspire to live each day with this kind of philosophy. Anymore if you don't think the way I do then you are bad seems to be the law of the land. Listening to each other and respecting our differences is what made this country differ from all others. If we can't or won't do this we are bound for failure like many civilizations before us. So I agree--learning to love each other because of our differences is the only way we will succeed and find true happiness.
  • Janice Short
    9:00 am, March 27, 2017
    I love Chip & Joanna. They are real people. Love to see them interact with their family. Their show, Fixer Upper, is the only show I watch on HGTV.
  • Ginny
    1:21 pm, March 25, 2017
    Why have we, as a nation, become so divided and unwilling to compromise? Has the anonymity of social media made nastiness the de riguer? I really want to think that the majority DO believe in the golden rule, but the screamers get the most attention. If we could just listen more, we might see that we have more in common than not. And if the politicians could learn that, please, we might ALL be better emotionally, physically, and financially as people and as a nation.
  • Barbara Gaffield
    7:35 am, March 25, 2017
    Well, my respect for Joanna and Chip just jumped up seven-fold. They seem to be gracious, very creative, kind and loving people. And, of course, there will be people who want to voice their anger (at someone other than Chip and Joanna) ... and Chip's answer was so wise, and loving, and kind. We NEED many more people like Joanna and him. I am a fan, 100%.
  • Deanna
    9:14 pm, March 24, 2017
    Beautiful! Thank you for being brave and taking a stand for love and inclusiveness! You have an amazing family and a great show! May you and Joanna continue to be blessed!
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