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Surviving or Thriving?

June 1, 2013

Today was our 10 year wedding Anniversary. Hard to believe it has been that long! You know you are getting old when all you want for your Anniversary is a nap. Three out of my four children spilled their lemonade tonight and I was so frustrated. Lemonade is sticky and I was in my date night dress scrubbing the floors on my knees. I had to apologize to my children for losing it over spilled lemonade. It wasn’t worth it.

For the weekend, I wanted to share an older post from 2 years ago. It’s a good reminder for me. Happy Weekend!

I love to work, I got it from my dad. My job is fun and fulfilling and I get to work with my best friend and husband, Chip. We get to see houses come to life everyday and get the benefit of knowing wonderful families are filling their spaces in these places we helped create.


I have been balancing (or so I say) work part of the day with being a mother the other part. Since I see my life in a grid, kids are on one side and work is on the other. Marriage fits happily in both places because we work together well and play together too. For a while, it was working just great and then the stress of work started spilling over on the “mother” side and I noticed even when I was home, my mind was always at work. I noticed some things coming up in their hearts and even in mine that were red flags. They needed their mom in this season of life and honestly I needed my kids.


Now that I juggle work at home and raising children I realized I needed to first stop compartmentalizing my life and start letting it FLOW. I want to be a mother who flows with things instead of FrEaKiNg out over sticky floors and interrupted nap times. I have such a tight grip on schedules and expectations that I rarely get to just sit back and enjoy being present. 

It’s the challenge set before all of us. How do we give up control in areas so we don’t smother our little ones? How do we take advantage of teachable moments when sometimes we’d rather a clean kitchen? I don’t want to be the mom that just goes through the day and survives it. I want to truly know that everyday is a gift and that I only have these little ducklings for so long and then they are off.
Let’s not let our days just pass us by, whether you have kids or no kids, married or single, evaluate your life and position yourself so that you are thriving. Ask God the question, “What is my purpose for today?” and then boldly walk out into that reality. The thought of living on survival mode is exhausting and it makes life go by too fast. Slow down, relax, and enjoy where you are and what’s all around you. Embrace this gift of today.

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